Bored and stuck for something to say? This or That fixes that in about three seconds. One person picks two options, everyone answers on the spot, and the silence is gone before anyone has time to feel awkward about it. No board, no app, no setup. Just read a pair out loud and see what people actually pick.
It works everywhere a normal conversation stalls: a first date, a family car ride, a Friday night with friends who have already run out of things to talk about, a classroom five minutes before the bell. Below are 500 questions sorted into eight categories, so you can jump straight to the mood you actually need instead of scrolling past dozens of questions about pizza toppings to find one that fits a date night.
How to play This or That (in case you need the two-second rulebook)
One person reads a pair of options. Everyone answers at the same time, out loud or by pointing, in three seconds or less. That is the whole game. No explaining required for the first few rounds, since the fun is in the instant, unfiltered pick.
Once the group warms up, add one rule: whoever answers has to give one sentence on why. This is where This or That quietly turns into a real conversation instead of a quiz. A silly food preference can turn into a five minute story about a childhood dinner nobody has thought about in years.
A few ways to keep it moving:
- Speed round: no explaining allowed, just picks, for a fast energy boost early in a hangout
- Story round: every answer needs a one-sentence reason, better for slower, deeper conversations
- Majority rules: in a group, whoever is in the minority has to answer the next question first
- Mixed deck: start with Funny, warm up with Food or Travel, then move into Deep once nobody is checking their phone anymore
Now, the questions. 70 Funny, 70 Couples, 60 Deep, 60 Kids, 70 Food and Drink, 60 Travel, 60 Pop Culture, and 50 Work and School.
Funny This or That Questions
Good for breaking a genuinely awkward silence. Nobody has to think hard about these, which is exactly the point.
- Talk to yourself out loud or talk to yourself in your head
- Sing badly in the shower or dance badly in the kitchen
- Trip in public or laugh at the wrong moment in a meeting
- Autocorrect fails or reply-all disasters
- A cat that judges you or a dog that ignores you
- Smell like a candle store or smell like a gas station
- Text back instantly or leave someone on read for two days
- A never-ending itch or a song stuck in your head forever
- Sneeze in threes or sneeze so quiet nobody notices
- A talking parrot that repeats your secrets or a silent one that judges you with its eyes
- Wear socks with sandals or wear no socks at all in winter
- A remote you can never find or a phone charger that is always missing
- Loud chewer or loud typer
- Stub your toe every morning or forget a word mid-sentence every day
- Karaoke solo or karaoke duet with someone who cannot sing
- Get the last slice or get to pick the movie
- A group chat that never stops or a group chat that went silent months ago
- Wi-Fi that is slow or Wi-Fi that randomly disconnects
- Show up ten minutes early or ten minutes late, every time, forever
- Eat a food you hate for a year or never eat your favorite food again
- Laugh at your own jokes or never laugh at anyone else’s
- Get caught singing in the car or caught talking to your pet in a baby voice
- A hiccup that lasts an hour or a sneeze that never fully happens
- Wear mismatched socks all week or wear your shirt inside out for a day
- A ringtone that embarrasses you in public or a notification sound that never stops
- Forget someone’s name right after they say it or forget your own passcode
- Walk into a glass door in public or trip over nothing on flat ground
- Send a text to the wrong person or like a very old photo by accident while scrolling
- A permanent wet sock feeling or a permanent piece of hair in your face
- Snort when you laugh or laugh completely silently
- Get gum stuck in your hair or step on gum in new shoes
- A phone that autocorrects every swear word to something worse or one that never autocorrects at all
- Wear a shirt backwards all day or wear two different shoes without noticing
- Have a nickname you hate that sticks forever or no nickname at all
- Answer a call meant for someone else and stay on the line confused or hang up immediately
- A really long email chain that goes nowhere or a meeting that could have been an email
- Get a compliment and immediately say something weird back or freeze completely
- A pet that only listens to other people or a pet that never listens to anyone
- Text a paragraph and get a one word reply or send one word and get a paragraph back
- Wave at someone who was not waving at you or ignore someone who actually was
- A phone battery that dies at 20 percent for no reason or one that takes forever to charge
- Forget your umbrella every time it rains or forget your charger every time you travel
- A car alarm that will not stop or a smoke alarm that beeps for no reason at 3am
- Order in a fake accent by accident or mispronounce a menu item loudly
- A really slow walker in front of you or someone who stops suddenly with no warning
- Have your stomach growl loudly in a quiet room or sneeze loudly in a quiet room
- A group photo where your eyes are closed or one where you are mid blink every single time
- Type a whole message and accidentally delete it or send it before you finish writing
- Get stuck making small talk in an elevator or at a party with a stranger
- A song that only has one good line or a movie that only has one good scene
- Clap at the wrong time or laugh at the wrong time
- An alarm you sleep through every day or one that wakes you up an hour too early
- Spill coffee on a white shirt or spill coffee on your laptop keyboard
- Say bless you to a stranger who did not sneeze or ignore someone who actually did
- A really itchy tag on every shirt or a seam that digs into your side all day
- Have to sneeze in a silent room or have to cough during a video call on mute
- Realize your fly was down all day or realize you had spinach in your teeth
- A voice memo you accidentally send instead of texting or a butt dial that lasts ten minutes
- Trip going up the stairs or trip going down the stairs
- A specific bad smell that follows you around or a random itch you can never fully scratch
- Overhear people talking about you or accidentally be overheard talking about someone else
- Say the wrong name at the worst time or forget an anniversary
- A game you always lose or a game everyone else always wins even though you are trying hard
- Get the hiccups during a presentation or have your phone go off loudly during a movie
- A GPS voice that mispronounces every street name or one that recalculates constantly
- Sit through a bad first date story or tell one
- A really loud yawn in a quiet room or a stomach growl during a test
- Fall asleep during a movie everyone else loved or stay awake through one everyone else slept through
- A prank pulled on you that actually worked or one you tried that completely failed
- Realize you have been mispronouncing a word your whole life or realize everyone else has been
This or That Questions for Couples
Playful enough for early dating, honest enough to actually learn something.
- Morning person or night owl
- Plan the whole trip or wing it completely
- Big wedding or small courthouse ceremony
- Cook together or order in every time
- Say it first or wait to hear it first
- Netflix and stay in or dress up and go out
- Text throughout the day or one long call at night
- Surprise gifts or planned ones you actually asked for
- Meet the parents early or wait as long as possible
- Fight it out immediately or take time to cool off first
- Beach vacation or mountain cabin
- Sleep in on weekends or get up early together
- PDA in public or keep it private
- Save for something big or spend on small things now
- Long distance for a year or never leave the same city
- Matching outfits once, just once, or never
- Their side of the bed or yours
- A grand romantic gesture or quiet everyday effort
- Move in together fast or take it slow
- Talk about the future constantly or let it happen naturally
- A love note left on the counter or a good morning text every day
- Celebrate anniversaries big or keep it low key every year
- Adopt a dog together or adopt a cat together
- Split chores evenly or divide by what each person actually likes doing
- Go to bed at the same time or keep separate schedules
- A joint bank account or keep finances separate
- Take a class together or have completely separate hobbies
- Slow dance in the kitchen or a real date night out
- Handwritten letters or daily texts
- Watch the sunrise together or the sunset
- A road trip playlist you both agree on or headphones and separate music
- Remember every small detail they mention or forget the small stuff but show up for the big things
- Say sorry first even when you are not wrong or wait until you both cool down
- A relationship with a lot of inside jokes or one built on deep talks
- Double date with friends or a private night in just the two of you
- Celebrate small wins together or save the celebration for big milestones
- A partner who is your biggest cheerleader or your most honest critic
- Plan a future together in detail or take it one year at a time
- Give gifts that are practical or gifts that are sentimental
- A partner who remembers your coffee order or one who remembers your childhood stories
- Spend a rainy day cooking together or watching movies together
- Argue it out in person or need space to write your thoughts down first
- A relationship with routines you both love or one that stays spontaneous
- Keep a shared calendar or wing your schedules and sync up as you go
- Learn a new skill together or support each other’s separate hobbies
- A partner who plans the trip or one who is happy to follow along
- Celebrate Valentine’s Day with tradition or skip it for something random instead
- Share a group chat with each other’s friends or keep friend groups separate
- A weekend of doing nothing together or a weekend full of plans
- Say what is bothering you right away or think it over before bringing it up
- A partner who remembers your family’s birthdays or one who remembers your friends’ names
- Renovate a home together or move somewhere brand new to both of you
- A relaxed engagement story or a big planned proposal
- Keep some things private between you or share absolutely everything
- A partner who is good with directions or one who is good with people
- Celebrate every small anniversary or just the big yearly one
- A quiet Sunday morning together or a Sunday adventure
- Handle a disagreement with humor or handle it with a serious conversation
- A partner who is more affectionate in public or more affectionate in private
- Plan surprises for each other often or keep surprises rare and big
- Share the same taste in music or have completely different playlists
- A partner who cooks or a partner who cleans up after
- Grow old in the same house you started in or move somewhere new later in life
- A love language of words or a love language of actions
- Take turns choosing the restaurant or always agree easily on where to eat
- A partner who journals your relationship or one who keeps memories in photos
- Celebrate your relationship publicly on social media or keep it mostly private
- A slow burn relationship or love at first sight
- A partner who challenges you to grow or one who accepts you exactly as you are
- Build a life around shared goals or build a life that supports each other’s separate goals
Deep This or That Questions
Slower pace, better for a late night talk than a party icebreaker.
- Be brutally honest or kindly diplomatic
- Know your future or keep the surprise
- Be famous or be forgotten but genuinely happy
- Lose all your memories or never make a new one again
- Live without music or live without movies
- One true friend or a hundred acquaintances
- Unlimited money or unlimited time
- Change your past or know your future
- Be feared or be ignored
- Never age physically or never age mentally
- Speak every language or play every instrument
- Live in the past you understand or the future you do not
- Success without recognition or recognition without success
- A short life fully lived or a long life half lived
- Know the full truth about something painful or a comforting version of it
- Give up your phone for a year or give up your car for a year
- Be always right or always at peace
- Follow your passion with no money or follow money with no passion
- Live in a city that never sleeps or a town that never changes
- Say what you think or think before you speak, always, no exceptions
- Have all the answers or all the right questions
- Be understood by everyone or understand everyone else completely
- Live a life of comfort or a life of purpose
- Give up ambition for peace or give up peace for ambition
- Know exactly how your life will end or know exactly when
- Have unlimited knowledge or unlimited wisdom
- Forgive everyone who has wronged you or be forgiven for everything you have done
- Never feel fear again or never feel doubt again
- Live fully in the present or hold onto every memory
- Be the smartest person in every room or the kindest
- Change one decision from your past or make peace with all of them
- Have people remember what you did or remember who you were
- A life with no regrets but no growth or a life with regrets that taught you everything
- Trust easily or guard your trust carefully
- Feel everything deeply or feel things at a manageable distance
- Live for yourself completely or live in service of others
- Know why bad things happen or never need to know
- Have unconditional certainty or endless curiosity
- Be needed by everyone or truly needed by just one person
- A life of many small joys or one enormous, unforgettable moment
- Carry the truth alone or share a painful truth and carry it together
- Never lose someone you love or never have loved at all
- Have your best days behind you or still ahead of you
- Live without ever being misunderstood or live boldly and risk being misunderstood often
- Take the safe path with certainty or the uncertain path with meaning
- Be at peace with silence or always have someone to talk to
- Have the courage to start over or the patience to see something through
- Know your purpose from the start or discover it slowly over a lifetime
- Give advice that is always right or receive advice you always take
- Live simply and content or live ambitiously and restless
- Have closure on everything unresolved in your life or leave some things open
- Value freedom above all or value belonging above all
- Be remembered for your work or remembered for how you made people feel
- Choose stability now or possibility later
- Know all your flaws clearly or be blind to them but at peace
- Live one life fully aware or many lives half aware
- Face your fears head on or slowly outgrow them with time
- Trust your gut instantly or think everything through carefully
- Have people agree with you often or challenge you often
- End every day with gratitude or end every day with ambition for tomorrow
This or That Questions for Kids
Simple, safe, and fast, built for classrooms, car rides, and family dinners.
- Ice cream or cake
- Superhero or wizard
- Beach day or snow day
- Dinosaurs or dragons
- Pizza or tacos
- Read a book or watch a movie
- Roller coaster or water slide
- Build a fort or build a sandcastle
- Puppy or kitten
- Fly or turn invisible
- Camping or a hotel
- Draw or sing
- Recess or lunch
- Ride a bike or ride a scooter
- Rainy day inside or sunny day outside
- Robots or aliens
- Trampoline or swing set
- Board game or video game
- Chocolate or vanilla
- Talking animal or shrinking down to bug size for a day
- Sleepover at your house or a friend’s house
- Chocolate chip cookies or brownies
- Zoo or aquarium
- Slide or swings
- Comic books or picture books
- Legos or building blocks
- Painting or coloring
- Have a pet dragon or a pet unicorn
- Summer break or winter break
- Bike ride or scooter race
- Pancakes or waffles for breakfast
- A treehouse or a fort made of blankets
- Play outside until dark or have a movie night
- Class pet or class garden
- Field trip to a museum or field trip to a farm
- A magic carpet or a jetpack
- Popcorn or cotton candy
- Water balloon fight or snowball fight
- Hide and seek or tag
- A birthday party at home or a birthday party at a fun park
- Have super strength or super speed
- A backyard trampoline or a backyard pool
- Story time before bed or a nightlight and quiet
- Grilled cheese or peanut butter and jelly
- Ride a horse or ride an elephant at the zoo
- A pet that can talk or a pet that can fly
- Play a video game with friends or play outside with friends
- A puzzle or a coloring book
- Cartoons or claymation shows
- A costume party or a talent show
- Bake cookies with a grown up or build something with blocks alone
- A rainy recess indoors or a hot recess outdoors
- Learn to skateboard or learn to swim really well
- A stuffed animal that talks back or one that just listens
- Ride in a hot air balloon or ride in a submarine
- School trip to space camp or school trip to a water park
- Collect rocks or collect stickers
- A day with no homework or a day with an extra recess
- A pet snake or a pet lizard
- Make up your own game or play a game someone else made up
Food and Drink This or That Questions
Low stakes, high opinions. Somebody always disagrees on at least half of these.
- Sweet or salty
- Pizza or burgers
- Coffee or tea
- Spicy food or mild food
- Breakfast for dinner or dinner for breakfast
- Homemade or takeout
- Chips or fries
- Soda or juice
- Pancakes or waffles
- Cook at home every night or eat out every night
- Sushi or tacos
- Chocolate or fruit for dessert
- Cereal or eggs
- Fast food or fine dining
- Ketchup or mustard
- Ice cream or frozen yogurt
- One giant meal or several small ones all day
- Buffet or sit down restaurant
- Grilled or fried
- Same meal every day for a month or a random meal every day for a month
- Milk chocolate or dark chocolate
- Thin crust or deep dish pizza
- Rice or noodles
- Fresh baked bread or store bought
- Steak or seafood
- Sparkling water or still water
- Popcorn sweet or popcorn salty
- A big breakfast or skip breakfast entirely
- Bagels or muffins
- Soup or salad
- A food truck or a sit down diner
- Smoothies or milkshakes
- Barbecue or grilled vegetables
- Cheese on everything or cheese only sometimes
- A spicy curry or a mild one
- Cold pizza the next day or fresh pizza the same night
- Mac and cheese or spaghetti
- A cheat day once a week or moderate eating every day
- Brunch or a late night snack run
- Homemade pasta or store bought
- Peanut butter or Nutella
- A picnic outside or a dinner at a restaurant
- Fresh fruit or dried fruit
- Grilled cheese or a classic sandwich
- A big salad bar or a small side salad
- French toast or crepes
- Guacamole or salsa
- A hot bowl of soup or a cold sandwich
- Chinese takeout or Italian takeout
- A candy bar or a bag of chips
- Cold brew or hot coffee
- Homemade cookies or store bought
- A cheese platter or a fruit platter
- Curly fries or straight fries
- A big holiday dinner or simple everyday meals
- Mexican food or Indian food
- Plain popcorn or loaded nachos
- A milkshake or an iced coffee
- Grilled chicken or fried chicken
- A food you have never tried or your comfort food again
- Eating with chopsticks or a fork
- A restaurant with a great view or one with great food but no view
- Cooking a new recipe or making an old favorite
- Dessert first or dessert last
- A fancy coffee order or a plain black coffee
- Homegrown vegetables or store bought produce
- A spicy snack or a sweet snack
- Family style sharing or everyone orders their own
- A weekend brunch with friends or a quiet breakfast alone
- Trying street food abroad or sticking to familiar restaurants
Travel This or That Questions
Good for planning a trip together or just daydreaming about one.
- Window seat or aisle seat
- Backpack or suitcase
- City trip or countryside retreat
- Road trip or flight
- Resort or local guesthouse
- Plan every stop or figure it out as you go
- Solo travel or group travel
- Same country every year or a new one every time
- Tropical heat or crisp cold air
- Camping under the stars or a hotel with room service
- Explore during the day or explore at night
- Try the street food or stick to what you know
- Souvenirs or photos
- Public transit or renting a car
- Ancient ruins or modern skyline
- Island hopping or one long stay in one place
- Guided tour or wandering with no plan
- Pack light or bring everything you might need
- A place with no signal or full connection the whole trip
- Desert landscapes or dense forests
- A long layover or a red eye flight
- Local street markets or big shopping malls
- A cruise or a road trip
- Mountain hiking or beach lounging
- A trip planned months ahead or a spontaneous last minute trip
- Staying in hostels or staying in hotels
- A rural countryside or a bustling capital city
- Renting a car or relying on taxis and rideshares
- A trip with a full itinerary or a trip with just one must-see thing
- Northern lights or a tropical sunset
- A road trip with music the whole way or a quiet drive
- Exploring caves or exploring castles
- A trip focused on food or a trip focused on sightseeing
- Traveling in a big group or traveling as a couple
- A snowy mountain town or a sunny coastal town
- A trip where you unplug completely or one where you document everything
- Waking up early to beat the crowds or sleeping in and seeing less
- A place known for its history or a place known for its nature
- Staying local the whole trip or hopping between several cities
- A long scenic train ride or a quick direct flight
- A trip centered on adventure activities or one centered on relaxation
- Bringing back souvenirs for everyone or just for yourself
- A destination wedding or a stay-at-home celebration
- Exploring on foot or renting bikes to get around
- A trip with strict daily plans or one with no schedule at all
- Visiting somewhere familiar and comforting or somewhere completely unknown
- A city known for its food scene or one known for its art scene
- Traveling during peak season or off season
- A remote cabin with no wifi or a city hotel with every amenity
- Learning a few words of the local language or relying on translation apps
- A trip where you make new friends along the way or keep to your own group
- Renting a scooter to explore or walking everywhere
- A holiday built around one big event or several smaller experiences
- Visiting family abroad or exploring somewhere brand new
- A trip with a detailed budget or spending freely and adjusting later
- Waking up to a mountain view or waking up to ocean waves
- A city trip packed with museums or a nature trip packed with trails
- Traveling with just a carry on or checking a full suitcase
- A local home cooked meal or a highly rated restaurant
- Ending a trip early to rest or squeezing in one more day
Pop Culture This or That Questions
For movie nights, road trips with music arguments, and anyone who has strong opinions about a franchise.
- Marvel or DC
- Books or the movie adaptation
- Comedy or horror
- Streaming or the actual movie theater
- Vinyl or playlists
- Concerts or festivals
- Binge a whole season or one episode a week
- Musicals or straight dramas
- Sequel or the original
- Podcasts or audiobooks
- Live music or a perfect studio recording
- Reboots or completely new stories
- Spoilers ahead of time or find out live
- Rewatch a favorite or risk something new
- Animated or live action
- Read the ending early or wait it out
- Documentaries or fiction
- TV show or movie franchise
- Karaoke songs or dance songs
- A cliffhanger ending or full closure
- A plot twist you saw coming or one that shocks you completely
- A long movie trilogy or a short standalone film
- A show with one long storyline or one with a new case every episode
- Reading the book before the movie or watching the movie first
- A villain you love to hate or a hero who is a little too perfect
- Fan theories or waiting for official confirmation
- A show cancelled on a cliffhanger or one that ends too early but wraps up nicely
- Practical effects or CGI
- A slow burn plot or fast paced action from the start
- A show everyone is talking about or a hidden gem nobody has heard of
- An unreliable narrator or a straightforward one
- A musical number in a regular movie or a full blown musical
- Following a franchise for decades or a one and done story
- A crossover episode or a standalone story
- An open ending you get to interpret or a definitive one
- A soundtrack that defines the movie or one you barely notice
- A show based on a true story or a completely fictional one
- Watching award shows live or reading the highlights after
- A celebrity interview or a behind the scenes documentary
- A franchise with a shared universe or standalone stories that never connect
- A remake that updates the original or one that stays completely faithful
- An ensemble cast or one clear main character
- A show you can multitask while watching or one that demands full attention
- A book series or a single standalone novel
- A fandom with passionate arguments or one that is quiet and low key
- An album you listen to front to back or a playlist of singles
- A movie the whole family agrees on or picking your own to watch alone
- A franchise reboot with a new cast or one that brings back the originals
- A cliffhanger season finale or a season that wraps up complete each time
- Discovering a show after everyone else already has or being the first to find it
- A movie night at a theater or a movie night at home with snacks you made
- An artist who reinvents their sound often or one who sticks to what works
- A story told in order or one that jumps around in time
- A show with a huge budget or a small show with a great story
- Watching trailers before a movie or avoiding them completely
- A long awaited sequel or a surprise spinoff nobody asked for
- A character redemption arc or a villain who stays a villain
- An award winning film or a fun, forgettable one
- A story that makes you cry or one that makes you laugh
- A series finale that is talked about for years or one that fades quietly
Work and School This or That Questions
Built for meetings that need a warm-up or a classroom five minutes before the bell.
- Remote work or the office
- Morning meetings or afternoon ones
- Email or a quick call
- A messy desk that makes sense to you or a clean desk you never touch
- Group projects or solo work
- A long lunch break or leaving early
- Deadlines with structure or open ended tasks
- Multitasking or one task at a time
- Working in silence or with background noise
- A strict schedule or a flexible one
- A four day work week or shorter days every day
- Working from a coffee shop or working from home
- A boss who gives constant feedback or one who trusts you to figure it out
- An open office layout or a private cubicle
- A big presentation or a written report
- Learning by watching or learning by doing
- An easy class with a heavy workload or a hard class with a light one
- Studying alone or studying in a group
- A pop quiz or a scheduled exam
- Handwritten notes or typed notes
- A teacher who lectures or one who leads discussions
- An early class or a late one
- Group presentations or individual ones
- Homework every night or one big project at the end of the term
- A school with a dress code or one with none
- Taking notes during class or reviewing notes after
- An internship at a big company or a small startup
- A job with routine tasks and stability or one that changes constantly
- A coworker who talks a lot or one who barely speaks
- A commute you can read during or one you have to drive yourself
- Working under pressure well or working best with plenty of time
- A promotion with more money or one with more free time
- An office with a view or an office close to everything you need
- A team that celebrates wins loudly or one that just moves on to the next task
- Learning a new skill on the job or already knowing it going in
- A performance review once a year or regular quick check ins
- A job you love with average pay or a job you tolerate with great pay
- Working with your best friend or working with strangers who become friends
- A flexible dress code or a uniform you never have to think about
- Finishing all your work early or spreading it out evenly across the week
Even more This or That questions
- Text or call
- Winter or summer
- City or suburbs
- Save it or spend it
- Early bird or last minute
- Introvert energy or extrovert energy
- A big party or a small gathering
- Rules or freedom
- Logic or gut feeling
- Adventure or routine
Feeling warmed up? Pair this with our Never Have I Ever questions for a longer game night, or go bigger with the Would You Rather list once everyone is comfortable making harder choices. If the group wants something with a bit more nerve involved, our Truth or Dare questions pick up right where this leaves off. For a different kind of brain teaser, try our riddles and brain teasers list. Prefer playing in the browser? The Never Have I Ever game runs the same confessional energy with live vote stats. And when the hangout ends, our things to do when bored at home guide has more low-effort ideas for a quiet night in.
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